Imagine laying on a soft mattress with pillows littering your body, your legs spread as you slowly begin the descent to your nether region. Your heart is racing with anticipation. Your lips curl upward, your smile knowing of the mischief that is to come. You put her on and your body jolts from the sensation of the pulses suddenly engulfing your clit. Slowly your body starts moving, unable to contain the pleasure it is experiencing. Goosebumps run up and down your back before they spread to your restless legs. Your breathing gets sharper. You shut your eyes in that moment of ecstasy before waves and waves of pleasure overcome your body.
Believe it or not, it was only a few months ago that I’d used a sex toy for the first time in my entire life. I didn’t buy one, no. My very thoughtful partner bought a few for me to play with since he too was taken aback at how I’d used my fingers to pleasure myself for ten years. I mean, it worked, and I had no qualms with it, but your arm isn’t a machine and it can tire easily.
Anyway, he has since bought some new toys for me to try and now we’re here.
The Lelo Sona.
The packaging on this is elegant, sleek, and oh-so-chic. It doesn’t look like the run of the mill novelty sex toy that you’d be embarrassed to carry around. Not that I’d brazenly carry the packaging in public, but you know what I mean. It’s classy.
It comes in a black cardboard box with a clear window that makes the Sona pop in all its electric pink glory. The back of the box has a few key selling points printed in gold and in different languages, which is good in reinforcing your purchase decision. However, if you’re buying a toy, I’m going to assume you’re going to do the research before you drop big bucks on it. Probably why you’re reading this, right?
Included in the box is the device itself, a satin pouch to modestly store it in, charging cable, glycerine-free and paraben-free personal moisturiser i.e. lube, a how-to guide, and a warranty card.
What is it?
The Sona is marketed as a ‘sonic clitoral massager’, which is quite accurate. There’s not much else you can do with it apart from using it on your clit. It uses ‘subsonic pulses to massage your entire clit, not just what’s visible. Rather than vibrating against your skin, it uses the air around it to generate its deep, satisfying waves of sensation’. A bit of a mouthful, but I understand it to be unlike normal vibrators. That being said, I’ve orgasmed three times in the span of 30 minutes using this, so clearly it has an advantage over more traditional clitoral stimulants.
The Sona is made of a body safe silicone, is rechargeable, and waterproof, so you can find pleasure almost anywhere. It has a nice curved design with a smooth gilded plastic on top, which gives it a more deluxe feel. There are three raised buttons on the concave part of the Sona, which changes the patterns and speed.
It has eight different ‘pleasure settings’, all of which you can change up the intensity of the pulses. I usually stick to first, fifth, and sixth settings since they’re not as intense as something like the second and eighth settings. On a normal night, I only ever increase the pulsations by about two levels, since anything else feels too intense and borders on discomfort. However, when I’m feeling particularly amorous, I have used every single pattern at the highest intensity possible.
So, this might be a no-brainer but to turn it on press the plus button, which happens to be the last button on the device. From here you can change the pleasure setting by pressing the middle button. Once you’ve chosen, press and hold either the plus or minus buttons to increase or decrease the intensity, respectively. To switch off, simply press and hold the minus button.
The first time I used the Sona it was on the most basic first setting with very minimal intensity. I managed to orgasm, which is great, but my clit felt very sensitive afterwards and even the next day. Feeling it rub against your underwear is not comfortable when you’re at work. I had to hold it in a way that it wasn’t engulfing my entire clit just to ease up on the intensity.
Nowadays I can use it on a higher strength, and I’ve used it while my partner and I were having sexy time. It makes an easy addition to bedroom antics since it’s nicely curved and easy to hold, or not hold as we’ve just popped it on me and let it do what it does best, pulsate.
Do I think this is a beginner friendly device? Maybe. If you’re new to vibrators and sex toys, this takes a bit of time to get used to and figure out which settings you like. However, once you get used to it and find your groove it’s well worth the effort. It’s also really handy to have while you’re having sex since it’s small and easily fits in your hand. However, sometimes if the position isn’t right, it can hurt a little.
After I use the Sona my clit is quite sensitive, and it continues to be so the morning after. I like how it isn’t loud on lower intensity settings, however on higher settings it can be a little noisy from the vibrations, despite being marketed as ‘whisper-quiet’. Not a deal breaker, but thought I’d mention it for people who may have thin walls or shared housing.
Since test driving this, I’ve used it many more times both by myself and with my partner. It’s easy to use now and easy to clean. I love how I can just lie there and enjoy the murmuring pulsations of the Sona. I’ve got it tucked away in a drawer that doesn’t see the light of day, but it is reachable even in the dark.
Please use lube. One time I used it without lube, I thought my clit was going to be sucked right off. I actually like my clit, thanks.
When you get it, explore the entire device and fiddle around with the settings until you get comfortable so that you intuitively know what to do when times comes for you to release your inner sexual goddess. We don’t really want to be fumbling around when really you should be having waves of orgasms.
It goes without saying but please clean it after usage. I use warm to hot water and hand soap. Quite straightforward and easy to do.
Now, I hope this gave you enough information on my personal experience with the Sona so that you can prepare your body for the orgasmic time that is to come! When you get the Sona, leave a comment to let us know which pattern you started off using.